SE2: Is your Insecurity making you Oversensitive? Here are 5 ways to deal with it..

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Today let's look at another challenging feeling, Oversensitivity. 

What is it and how can we recognize it and deal with it?

Over Sensitivity: Too easily upset without sufficient reason. 

Behavior: Micro analyzing the situation and overreacting verbally or non-verbally.

When you feel insecure for a long time, you start looking at everything through that lens. You may feel inferior to your friends, colleagues, and all those you meet who are good at what they do. They are doing what they are motivated to do. They don’t need anyone to keep pushing them, to work hard, and do what it takes to reach that place in their life, where they can finally be noticed and admired. If you grudge them that, then you are being unfair, to them. This constant back and forth in your heart and mind leads to becoming oversensitive to any casual comment and especially to a sincere suggestion or constructive criticism.

So how can you deal with oversensitivity?

1. As a rule, genuinely appreciate people who are successful in life.

2. When you hear that a person is really talented or a genius and such superlatives, don’t start trying to imagine the drawbacks the person may have. For eg: If you meet a successful actor or actress, we may automatically assume that their personal life would be a mess.

3. When your friends, family, or acquaintances tell you something that you are not doing as well as you could have, do not attack them in self-defense. Thank them, and see if there is an element of truth in what they are saying.

4. Take all criticism and or suggestions with an open mind, and categorize them into constructive criticism or destructive criticism. If you can, then, implement the positive and reject the negative.

5. Carefully consider all constructive criticism and use it to better yourself, also, even parts of the destructive criticism or ridicule may have some hidden positive suggestions, pinpoint those, and let go of the rest.

If you start by just following these simple tips, you will be able to tide over this feeling of being very easily hurt and oversensitive. 

Always, save your energy and direct it towards, moving higher and closer to your life’s purpose. If you suppress or ignore this feeling/emotion, you may find worry setting in. Therefore you need to work on it ASAP and overcome this self-hurting feeling. I hope this article helps you come out of or at least lessen your pain. 

My next post will be about Worry and how to deal with worry.

Bye for now, see you in my next post!