GE2: Is Dissatisfaction causing self pity?

Hi Everyone,

Do you sometimes catch yourself thinking, "why don't I have what "they" have, I am not as good as "them" (who is they and them)?"

This feeling is called dissatisfaction. It is a very close feeling to jealousy and envy, though not as intense. 

This feeling shows itself as, a feeling of lack or disapproval or envy. Individuals experiencing this may display, mildly aggressive communication, similar to frustration but less intense.

Dissatisfaction creeps in when you are expecting to achieve something, but then it falls way below your expectation.

So, how do you recognise and deal with it?

Here, expectations cause dissatisfaction. This feeling may last for an hour or even sometimes a day. Let me assure you...it would be a total waste of time, to stay for too long in this state of mind. This would cause self pity and make you feel like a victim. The best way to deal with this situation is:

1. Start from where you left off- If there was a project you were handling and expected it to be great but it turned out to be average, pick it up from where you left it and continue to find out why that happened.

2. Make a list of things you missed out- you could ask your near and dear family members or friends to list out the positives and areas of improvement for you so that you could then look at each one critically and work it out.

3. Remember practice makes perfect- No matter how many times you try to reach your desired expectation of the product, you are learning and growing. So don’t be disheartened, just keep at it.

4. Be creative- Easier said than done, however all of us have some creativity in us and unless we have the courage to test our creativity we will never be able to create anything unique and great.

5. Not being perfect is not a crime- don’t beat yourself over it. Move one step up at a time, aim for excellence not for perfection.

Once you have completed all these steps, the final way to get rid of the dissatisfaction is to count your blessings…be they big or small. Say to yourself “ I am blessed and happy, because I can afford to feel the way I do, but I choose not too.”